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Perhaps no other relationship in life is as challenging or as rewarding as your relationship with your mate.
Ideally, your mate is the single most important person in whom you share your biggest hopes, grandest dreams, your scariest feelings, and darkest fears. This level of vulnerability is what makes our relationships so wonderful when they’re working and so worrisome when they’re not.
Making the decision to wholeheartedly invest your time, energy, and effort into couple’s counseling isn’t easy, and harder yet is making the call to seek help. I understand.
Too often I work with couples that have waited years before pursuing counseling, thinking things would eventually improve on their own. Meanwhile they both build walls around their hearts in an effort to protect themselves from the emotional pain of a failing marriage.
Most would likely agree that we live in a throw away society, that encourages us to toss out our broken things … thinking we can easily replace them later. Yet the statistics tell us this philosophy doesn’t apply to marriages.
Fortunately, most couples who wholeheartedly invest in repairing a troubled marriage are significantly happier within 5 years.
My passion for working with couples is to help them understand the meaning and motivation that created and activates their relationship problems. I focus on improving communication and empathy, deepening intimacy, and repairing and establishing trust, so that couples can once again experience the thriving relationship they once had.
Common reasons people seek couple’s counseling:
- Premarital & Re-Marital Counseling
- Healing Relationship Wounds
- Communication Issues
- Conflict Resolution
- Blended Family Issues
- Co-Parenting / Difficult Children
- Anger / Safety Issues
- Money / Financial Issues
- Problem Gambling
- Sex Therapy (both traditional & non-traditional relationships)
- Life Transition Issues / Loss / Empty Nest
- Recovering From Affairs (emotional and physical)
- Dealing with In-laws & Extended Family Issues
- Discernment Counseling (deciding to either work on the marriage or divorce)
- Divorce / Reconciliation Counseling
Note: Conditions in which couple’s counseling is not recommended and needs to be referred for other types of counseling:
- Active affair(s) with no desire or intent to end the relationship.
- Active physical / emotional abuse or lack of safety.
- Active / ongoing substance abuse that is not being treated.
- A significant mental illness of one or both individuals.
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